When a woman feels great when you’re around, when you give her attention and make her feel special – that’s a second date recipe. Here are the 4 ingredients:
The idea is simple: we love being around people that make us feel good.
Although not everyone knows how to handle compliments, everyone still loves getting them, and they go hand in hand with making eye contact so keep reading…
Whether you’re talking, she’s talking or no one’s talking, nothing communicates better on a first date than eye contact, or lack of it.
When you’re making eye contact while she’s talking, it makes her feel that she’s got your full attention and that what she says is interesting and important to you.
Here is a romantic foreplay move: keep gazing into her eyes after she’s done talking, wait few seconds, then compliment her eyes, smile or hair, or how funny, smart or cute she is. With this flirty way you make her feel that you’re into her, and when done right it is a very intense moment that will totally melt her in her chair (in more than one way… who said foreplay?).
Eye contact don’ts:
- Don’t fake it – do it only if that’s how you really feel at that moment and the compliment is genuine.
- Don’t overdo it – don’t stare until it gets uncomfortable.
- Don’t be creepy – keep your thoughts above her neck… If instead of “how amazing it would be to see this face every morning” you think of “how fun it would be to feel this body every night ” your vibe will turn from romantic to creepy.
A lack of eye contact is a clear message of lack of interest, regardless of the real reason. If it’s shyness or nervousness you better be aware and learn to control it so you don’t send the wrong message.
A romantic, non-sexual physical contact, like touching her shoulder when leaving a place, or holding her hand while crossing the street is a great way to show your Gentleman characteristics and also to check her reaction to your touch.
If she likes your touch she will most likely smile and will not rush to let go of your hand. If she seems nervous and uncomfortable it’s probably a good idea to remove kissing from your wishlist…
Remember that a premature move can be your last move, so avoid anything sexual on a first date. The most sexual part of a great romantic first date should be a long hot kiss, that will make her dream about you.
I’m not talking anything big like meeting the parents or planning your honeymoon, but something like “there’s this place I think you’d love, I should take you there” will let her know that you’re already planning your future dates. It’s also a great way to get a sense of how she feels about keep seeing you by the level of excitement (or lack of) in her response.
If the date went well and you want to see her again, an “I had a great time, I’ll call you tomorrow..?” at the end is a must.
If she feels the same she will probably respond with “I had a great time too” and that leaves no doubt about a second date, who’s calling and when – what a great feeling to have at the end of a great first date. However, if she doesn’t feel the same, it does leave her a room to communicate it.